Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to “fight” by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.
If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. – Mark 3:25
So this wasn't too easy, either. Levi and I haven't really been to nice to each other today (he has today off, so we've been home together all day, as well) and when I tried to bring this up, he wouldn't have anything to do with it. So I guess I'm going to be making my own list!
1. Don't bring up the things he's done in the past. I know how much that hurts him.
2. Don't over react.
3. Listen fully to what he has to say before I get mad.
4. Don't mention divorce, leaving or separation just as a way to blow off steam or make him mad.
5. If I feel my anger escalating to a level that's going to get out of hand, just remove myself from the situation, take a breather, and go back willing to listen and compromise.
I hope I can really think about this the next time we have a fight.
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